The more you hide your feelings, the more they show. The more you deny your feelings, the more they grow. ~Unknown
If you suffer with one or more of the psychological symptoms associated with PMS e.g. irritability, mood swings, depression….. The above quote must ring true; I know it certainly does with me!
For some reason when I used to suffer with PMS and experience a low mood, I would state the now classic and favourite quote of mine which is “I’m fine”…. but actually, on the inside I was experiencing enough frustration to kick a door down and on the outside I would be as warm as an artic winter!
But “I was fine”! ….. In fact, it was everyone else with the low mood, not me!
Does the above sound familiar?
As women with PMS we know that the hiding of our emotions is not something we do on purpose, but it is something that seems to happen at unconscious level…. and as Guy Finley eloquently states in his book “The Secret of Letting Go”:
The inner determines the outer.
For example, if a person writing a letter misspells a word, the error starts in the person’s mind, after which it appears on the paper. The word can not be corrected until the mind is corrected first. If mind is not corrected, the error will endlessly repeat itself on paper.
So with this knowledge in mind, physiological symptoms of PMS should be reduced by actively working on the following four self development areas listed below:
- Develop Awareness skills and learn to become consciously aware of every thought and feeling being experienced, so that you can consciously decide how to react or respond to the outside world.
- Develop honesty and compassion with yourself.
- Learn how to communicate openly to your loved ones, so that they know how PMS is truly making you feel.
and number 4….the most important…. but sometimes hard to hear!
- Learn to take responsibility and action for yourself by actively seeking to improve in the above areas day by day, month by month.
The path to curing PMS is not easy, but it can be done and I hope that by reading this blog your journey will be made just that little bit easier.