Is PMS a Condition or a Symptom of unresolved issues within our self?
This is a question I have been thinking about for a long time.
I’m guessing that if you were to ask a number of people this question, then you would receive many conflicting answers, probably due to factors such as:
The intensity of their PMS.
If they are the ones suffering with PMS or if they are just living with a person who has PMS.
Their own belief system of why symptoms develop.
To further analyse this question, have you ever noticed an improvement in your PMS when your mind has been still and happy? for example, when you have been planning and preparing for a long awaited holiday or even when you have been on holiday?
Or do you remember a time when you have experienced heightened PMS due to your mind being unusually busy or unhappy?
Does the above sound familiar to you?
The above is certainly familiar to me, which leads me to believe that PMS is actually more of an indicator of our own mental and physical well-being, rather than a condition in its own right!
So surely this means that the cure to PMS could actually be within our selves rather than in medication?
PMS has always had negative connotations but how empowering would it be, if instead we used it as a powerful reminder that we must Prioritise our own Mental Stability, because if we did, I believe that most people would experience a reduction in their PMS and a generally more enjoyable life! …. and who would not want that? 🙂
I have met a number of people over the years who are very aware that they have PMS, maybe they have read some books, watched some YouTube videos… but most have never actually taken any action, even though they have spent many hours researching different tools and techniques.
Maybe these people are just not ready…? As to be honest, it does take a huge amount of commitment to achieve any real results and to ensure that they stay a habitual part of your life.
PMS can be cured! …. But it really depends on if you are ready for the journey?
The journey can be very long, filled with many lows at first, but it’s so fantastic when you actually start to see results for yourself, such as improvements in relationships, reduction in monthly tension and of course your first fully Happy Month, wow that’s a great feeling!
So are you ready to take action?
If you are, then you may be interested to know that I am in the process of writing a 31 day workbook, which will aid you in your journey to become PMS free…. and I hope that this will be available from Amazon very soon!
Is PMS your problem? or could it be that PMS is purely a manifestation of problems being experienced in your life?
This is an important question and one that must be considered.
For many years, I actually believed that PMS caused myself to feel irritated, unmotivated, ugly and insecure and that I had absolutely no control over this!
But with a lot of work, I have learnt that this is not the case!
PMS simply highlights the parts of ourselves that need to nurtured, developed and loved.
I now use PMS as a magnifying glass, as it allows me to see the areas of my life that need to be improved, developed and enhanced…. and it provides me with the opportunity to actively do something about it!
This approach means that PMS is no longer my enemy, but actually a positive life tool that I can use to improve myself, my relationships and my life.
Meditation is not for everyone….. but personally, I think that if something has the potential to reduce my PMS symptoms!….. then I am going to give it a try!
Meditation has been proven to help relax the body and mind…… and with practice, it allows you to see your own thoughts and feelings as they develop, including the first signs of PMS or even eureka moments, “Oo I actually have PMS now”!
By noticing that you are either entering, in or leaving the PMS phase of your cycle, you can provide yourself with the opportunity and time to decide what you need now or even, how should I be reacting now? so that you can have that totally Happy Month!
If you are interested in Meditation then there are a number of books and web pages on the topic…. but one of the best books I have read is called:
“Mindfulness – a practical guide to finding peace in a frantic world” By Mark Williams and Danny Penman
… and below is an actual free meditation from the book, I really recommend it!
So when you have some spare time, find a relaxing position, put the “do not disturb” sign on your door and have 8 minutes of pure peace!…. and who knows what you will notice! enjoy 🙂
The more you hide your feelings, the more they show. The more you deny your feelings, the more they grow. ~Unknown
If you suffer with one or more of the psychological symptoms associated with PMS e.g. irritability, mood swings, depression….. The above quote must ring true; I know it certainly does with me!
For some reason when I used to suffer with PMS and experience a low mood, I would state the now classic and favourite quote of mine which is “I’m fine”…. but actually, on the inside I was experiencing enough frustration to kick a door down and on the outside I would be as warm as an artic winter!
But “I was fine”! ….. In fact, it was everyone else with the low mood, not me!
Does the above sound familiar?
As women with PMS we know that the hiding of our emotions is not something we do on purpose, but it is something that seems to happen at unconscious level…. and as Guy Finley eloquently states in his book “The Secret of Letting Go”:
The inner determines the outer.
For example, if a person writing a letter misspells a word, the error starts in the person’s mind, after which it appears on the paper. The word can not be corrected until the mind is corrected first. If mind is not corrected, the error will endlessly repeat itself on paper.
So with this knowledge in mind, physiological symptoms of PMS should be reduced by actively working on the following four self development areas listed below:
Develop Awareness skills and learn to become consciously aware of every thought and feeling being experienced, so that you can consciously decide how to react or respond to the outside world.
Develop honesty and compassion with yourself.
Learn how to communicate openly to your loved ones, so that they know how PMS is truly making you feel.
and number 4….the most important…. but sometimes hard to hear!
Learn to take responsibility and action for yourself by actively seeking to improve in the above areas day by day, month by month.
The path to curing PMS is not easy, but it can be done and I hope that by reading this blog your journey will be made just that little bit easier.
So Christmas is over and New Years Eve will soon be upon us….. this means that it is the time of year when we all start to think about the things we would like to do or achieve in the new year.
So I thought I would list my top 10 resolutions needed to combat PMS:
During the last 10 days of your menstrual cycle you may notice your energy levels dropping, which can lead to irritability and low moods…. So this year commit to adding additional whole grain carbohydrate foods into your shopping basket that can be used to help sustain your energy levels during this time e.g. Baked potato’s, nuts, bananas, wholewheat pasta and brown bread.
Caffeine is known to increase anxiety and irritability, so combine this with PMS and it can be a dangerous combination… So this year commit to reducing your caffeine intake to a maximum of two cups of Coffee/Tea a day during the last 10 days of your menstrual cycle.
Commit to positively changing your thought patterns e.g. “expect a happy month and you will”.
Commit to talking honestly and openly to your partner, close family and friends about how you are feeling during the month.
Commit to making time for yourself during the day, this could be in the form of meditation, reading, listening to music or any other enjoyable activity, even if it is just 10 minutes a day!
Commit to providing yourself with compassion on those difficult days, remembering to talk to yourself as if you were talking to your best friend, providing yourself with words that comfort and support you.
Having a bad day? is everyone annoying you? then commit to Journaling…
Grab a note book, a pen and then just write…write down everything that is on your mind, ignore grammar and punctuation, just let your pen do the talking!….
Once done, tear the paper up and throw in a bin, I guarantee any problems will reduce in size and you will feel mentally lighter.
This technique is great for gaining insight into your current behaviors and moods.
Commit to letting yourself relax during the last 10 days of your menstrual cycle without feeling guilty.
Commit to adding a star to your wall or pocket calendar every month, indicating when you are expecting your PMS symptoms to start, this will allow you to be mindful of your thoughts and actions during this time and will also benefit the people you live with, as they will have a better understanding of whats happening.
Of course number 10 could only be: Commit to following the Happy Month Blog, a sure-fire way to reduce / cure PMS for good!
I hope you find the above list of resolutions helpful…….but, remember, to achieve a goal takes more than just a decision, it requires constant small steps and commitment to achieve the desired result!