PMS Tips For Men

It’s just as important for men to understand about PMS, as it is for women.

Awareness of PMS and how it can impact someones reaction, mood or physicality will only bring positive benefits to yourself and to those who suffer with the condition.

Ignorance is a recipe for disaster, recovery from PMS is ultimately in the hands of the sufferer but support from loved ones makes a huge difference!

So below are my Five Top Tips For Men wishing to help themselves and their loved ones with PMS:

  1. Be aware of your loved ones cycle, make sure she puts a star on the calendar, indicating roughly when her PMS phase will start – If she is not open with her cycle, you will be clueless, which is really not fair on you!
  2. Try to avoid mentioning PMS in the middle of an argument, even if you know that it is the cause – wait until you have both had time to calm down – if you can!
  3. Laugh about PMS, avoid belittling the condition – but a sense of humor, always helps to ease the tension in any situation 🙂
  4. Discuss PMS with your loved one, when she is NOT in her PMS phase !! – normally discussions only happen when the topic is primed due to an argument, caused by the condition.
    Instead I recommend being proactive and speaking about PMS when the phase is over, where you can both have a constructive conversation, allowing you to put positive plans in place for the next phase e.g. swapping of chores that may help ease the pressure etc.
  5. Of course #5 is… read http://www.happymonth.co.ukKnowledge is Power!

 

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Do you have a plan?

“A goal without a plan is just wish”

I think this is a great quote, it simply highlights that we can have all the goals in the world, but without knowing the steps needed to accomplish them, it really is wishful thinking!

By reading this blog, i’m assuming that your goal is to reduce and eventually heal from PMS..

To be able to do this, I highly recommend implementing an action plan.

An example could be:

Daily Tasks:

Meditate
Drink plenty of water
Actively be aware of the stage that I am in, with regards to my monthly cycle
Move, seek fresh air, breath and relax

Weekly Tasks:

Research case studies and recovery strategies from Books and the Internet
Adapt food to be consumed, to benefit the current stage of my monthly cycle
Adapt exercise regime, to benefit the current stage of my monthly cycle

Monthly Tasks:

Add a mark on my calendar, highlighting next months PMS phase.
Celebrate success when a happy month has been had, due to a well thought out and delivered plan!

So get planning! and of course, if you need help, feel free to contact me:

Chrissie@happymonth.co.uk

Time for an early night?

Sleep has an amazing effect on our body and mind.

It allows us to fully unwind and relax from our day.

Most studies recommend 7/8 hours sleep per night but this can vary.

If you are in your PMS phase I would recommend adding an additional hour to your normal sleep pattern, turn off your TV, switch off your mobile phone and fully relax.

This small change will make a real positive difference to your mood and energy levels for the next day…

For me personally, during this phase I tend to go to bed at 9pm and wake up at 7am, this ensures that I am ready for the day ahead in a lovely calm mood.

Why not give it a try?

HappyMonth.x

 

Have you taken action yet?

I have met a number of people over the years who are very aware that they have PMS, maybe they have read some books, watched some YouTube videos… but most have never actually taken any action, even though they have spent many hours researching different tools and techniques.

Maybe these people are just not ready…? As to be honest, it does take a huge amount of commitment to achieve any real results and to ensure that they stay a habitual part of your life.

PMS can be cured! …. But it really depends on if you are ready for the journey?

The journey can be very long, filled with many lows at first, but it’s so fantastic when you actually start to see results for yourself, such as improvements in relationships, reduction in monthly tension and of course your first fully Happy Month, wow that’s a great feeling!

So are you ready to take action?

If you are, then you may be interested to know that I am in the process of writing a 31 day workbook, which will aid you in your journey to become PMS free…. and I hope that this will be available from Amazon very soon!

PMS Action

Caffeine, the enemy of PMS

I love coffee!

My favourite has to be from Nero’s, normally a White Americano!

Coffee gives me that well needed energy boost in the morning, it relaxes me after lunch and it is my favourite daily treat.

But somehow, this lovely daily treat, turns into the evil side kick of PMS once a month…. and the stimulation qualities seem to focus themselves on heightening my annoyance, anger and irritation rather than anything positive such as relaxation or energy.

But I need coffee?

So to combat this, I realised that I had to reduce my caffeine intake during my PMS phase, which sounds easy, but when you are ever so slightly addicted to the substance, it is very easy to say yes when someone offers you a cup!

So I am now very strict with myself, limiting myself to two cups if I feel that I am ok, but if I sense even the slightest hint of PMS, then its straight on to the Camomile Tea!

Could you benefit from the same approach?

Not feeling great today?

Feeling “PMS’y”? then its time to have some you time!

What do I mean by “you time”? it can be anything that relaxes you, takes the pressure off of you and allows yourself to be still and calm.

You know that it’s incredibly difficult to work at the same pace during PMS, but naturally we still try and push ourselves on to achieve everything that we need to do and to the same exacting standards.

So instead, I recommend dropping the pace by 20%, making some room in your day to just relax and unwind and most importantly, allowing yourself to be just that little bit laid back, without thinking badly of yourself for doing so.

It sounds very simple, but for some reason, even though we know that this is what we need, we still continue at the same fast pace.

So this month, be kind to yourself and slow the pace down ….. it will really make an enormous difference to your month.

Relax PMS

Are you feeling PMS’y?

If you feel unwell, unable to do any job or task because you feel so ill…..

Would you attempt to hide this from everyone around you?

Or

Would you let them know that you are not feeling well?

I’m guessing that you would tell someone, or at least that you would give yourself everything you needed to feel better . . . .

But it’s odd that most women try to do the opposite where PMS is concerned; trying to pretend or persuade everyone that everything is ok, when really it’s not.

This month open up and let people know that you are not feeling well due to PMS, if you manage to catch the feeling early, tell your loved ones straight away, let them know as soon as possible.

A powerful sentence that has dramatically reduced my PMS is simply:

I’m feeling a bit PMS’y

Sounds simple to say? Yes, but in the early days I found it very hard to admit that I had PMS to myself, let alone to the people I lived with.

But saying the above sentence out loud, I actually found to be very healing as I would feel instantly lighter emotionally, my symptoms would reduce dramatically and any atmosphere at home would be prevented or reduced.

Example

One month I was suffering with irritation due to PMS and I decided to do one of the worst possible things when experiencing the symptom, which was to try and find something in a draw that was a complete mess . . . .

I could feel the rage developing….someone offered to help….I wanted to snap, but then I uttered the words:

Do you know what? I’m feeling a bit PMS’y, would you mind doing this for me?

Rather than the normal explosion and argument, I felt instantly calmer, the person who offered to help felt better too, as they now had an understanding of what was wrong and they even told me to have a relax and then made me a cup of tea…..

O how it could have been so different, if I would of not said those words!!

So use this sentence, it really does work, say it whenever you feel it!