It’s just as important for men to understand about PMS, as it is for women.
Awareness of PMS and how it can impact someones reaction, mood or physicality will only bring positive benefits to yourself and to those who suffer with the condition.
Ignorance is a recipe for disaster, recovery from PMS is ultimately in the hands of the sufferer but support from loved ones makes a huge difference!
So below are my Five Top Tips For Men wishing to help themselves and their loved ones with PMS:
Be aware of your loved ones cycle, make sure she puts a star on the calendar, indicating roughly when her PMS phase will start – If she is not open with her cycle, you will be clueless, which is really not fair on you!
Try to avoid mentioning PMS in the middle of an argument, even if you know that it is the cause – wait until you have both had time to calm down – if you can!
Laugh about PMS, avoid belittling the condition – but a sense of humor, always helps to ease the tension in any situation 🙂
Discuss PMS with your loved one, when she is NOT in her PMS phase !! – normally discussions only happen when the topic is primed due to an argument, caused by the condition.
Instead I recommend being proactive and speaking about PMS when the phase is over, where you can both have a constructive conversation, allowing you to put positive plans in place for the next phase e.g. swapping of chores that may help ease the pressure etc.
Is PMS a Condition or a Symptom of unresolved issues within our self?
This is a question I have been thinking about for a long time.
I’m guessing that if you were to ask a number of people this question, then you would receive many conflicting answers, probably due to factors such as:
The intensity of their PMS.
If they are the ones suffering with PMS or if they are just living with a person who has PMS.
Their own belief system of why symptoms develop.
To further analyse this question, have you ever noticed an improvement in your PMS when your mind has been still and happy? for example, when you have been planning and preparing for a long awaited holiday or even when you have been on holiday?
Or do you remember a time when you have experienced heightened PMS due to your mind being unusually busy or unhappy?
Does the above sound familiar to you?
The above is certainly familiar to me, which leads me to believe that PMS is actually more of an indicator of our own mental and physical well-being, rather than a condition in its own right!
So surely this means that the cure to PMS could actually be within our selves rather than in medication?
PMS has always had negative connotations but how empowering would it be, if instead we used it as a powerful reminder that we must Prioritise our own Mental Stability, because if we did, I believe that most people would experience a reduction in their PMS and a generally more enjoyable life! …. and who would not want that? 🙂
I have met a number of people over the years who are very aware that they have PMS, maybe they have read some books, watched some YouTube videos… but most have never actually taken any action, even though they have spent many hours researching different tools and techniques.
Maybe these people are just not ready…? As to be honest, it does take a huge amount of commitment to achieve any real results and to ensure that they stay a habitual part of your life.
PMS can be cured! …. But it really depends on if you are ready for the journey?
The journey can be very long, filled with many lows at first, but it’s so fantastic when you actually start to see results for yourself, such as improvements in relationships, reduction in monthly tension and of course your first fully Happy Month, wow that’s a great feeling!
So are you ready to take action?
If you are, then you may be interested to know that I am in the process of writing a 31 day workbook, which will aid you in your journey to become PMS free…. and I hope that this will be available from Amazon very soon!
Is PMS your problem? or could it be that PMS is purely a manifestation of problems being experienced in your life?
This is an important question and one that must be considered.
For many years, I actually believed that PMS caused myself to feel irritated, unmotivated, ugly and insecure and that I had absolutely no control over this!
But with a lot of work, I have learnt that this is not the case!
PMS simply highlights the parts of ourselves that need to nurtured, developed and loved.
I now use PMS as a magnifying glass, as it allows me to see the areas of my life that need to be improved, developed and enhanced…. and it provides me with the opportunity to actively do something about it!
This approach means that PMS is no longer my enemy, but actually a positive life tool that I can use to improve myself, my relationships and my life.
Meditation is not for everyone….. but personally, I think that if something has the potential to reduce my PMS symptoms!….. then I am going to give it a try!
Meditation has been proven to help relax the body and mind…… and with practice, it allows you to see your own thoughts and feelings as they develop, including the first signs of PMS or even eureka moments, “Oo I actually have PMS now”!
By noticing that you are either entering, in or leaving the PMS phase of your cycle, you can provide yourself with the opportunity and time to decide what you need now or even, how should I be reacting now? so that you can have that totally Happy Month!
If you are interested in Meditation then there are a number of books and web pages on the topic…. but one of the best books I have read is called:
“Mindfulness – a practical guide to finding peace in a frantic world” By Mark Williams and Danny Penman
… and below is an actual free meditation from the book, I really recommend it!
So when you have some spare time, find a relaxing position, put the “do not disturb” sign on your door and have 8 minutes of pure peace!…. and who knows what you will notice! enjoy 🙂