PMS – Prioritise Mental Stability

Is PMS a Condition or a Symptom of unresolved issues within our self?

This is a question I have been thinking about for a long time.

I’m guessing that if you were to ask a number of people this question, then you would receive many conflicting answers, probably due to factors such as:

    1. The intensity of their PMS.
    2. If they are the ones suffering with PMS or if they are just living with a person who has PMS.
    3. Their own belief system of why symptoms develop.

To further analyse this question, have you ever noticed an improvement in your PMS when your mind has been still and happy? for example, when you have been planning and preparing for a long awaited holiday or even when you have been on holiday?

Or do you remember a time when you have experienced heightened PMS due to your mind being unusually busy or unhappy?

Does the above sound familiar to you?

The above is certainly familiar to me, which leads me to believe that PMS is actually more of an indicator of our own mental and physical well-being, rather than a condition in its own right!

So surely this means that the cure to PMS could actually be within our selves rather than in medication?

PMS has always had negative connotations but how empowering would it be, if instead we used it as a powerful reminder that we must Prioritise our own Mental Stability, because if we did, I believe that most people would experience a reduction in their PMS and a generally more enjoyable life! …. and who would not want that? 🙂

To be continued . . .

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P.M.S (Please.Minimise.Stimulants)

Caffine PMS Coffee

Did you know that stimulation has the potential to heighten your thoughts, feelings and emotions in either a positive or negative way? depending on your mood when the stimulation takes place.

For example,  if you experience a form of stimulation when you are happy then you will probably notice an increase in your level of happiness, whereas, if you experience a form of stimulation when your mood is already low then you may experience any one of the following symptoms:

  • Agitation
  • Hostility
  • Panic attacks
  • Aggression
  • Flushed Skin

The list above may be very familiar, as it is a very close match to some of the most commonly experienced symptoms of PMS:

  • Mood swings
  • Feeling irritable or angry
  • Feeling upset or emotional
  • Anxiety

The commonality between these two lists indicates that by combining negative stimulation along with PMS, you are unknowingly doubling your likelihood of having an “Unhappy Month”.

Stimulation can occur from a number of different sources, such as:

  •  Coffee
  •  Tea
  •  Alcohol
  • Drugs
  • Music
  • Working environment
  • Deadlines
  • Changes in Temperature

As you can see from the list above, a source of stimulation can either be from a stimulant which is defined as an edible/drinkable substance such as Coffee or from a stimuli such as temperature or music.

Personally, I  now prioitise avoiding stimulants that could produce a negative response 10-15 days before my period is due and instead I focus on introducing all positive forms e.g.:

Negative sources (my avoid or reduce list)

  • Caffeine
  • Alcohol
  • Loud/fast music
  • Hot Temperatures
  • Deadlines
  • Lack of food

Positive sources (my negative replacements)

  • Herbal Tea
  • Water/Fruit Juice/Milk
  • Relaxing music
  • Cool temperatures
  • Reduction of deadlines or less time pressures
  • Food at regular intervals.

So, why don’t you give it a try! I guarantee that by reducing any negative sources of stimulation from your diet and/or lifestyle, you will increase your chances of a “HappyMonth”… so please use this post as a guide and see if you notice a difference!

P.S HappyMonth will be featuring in “TakeABreak” magazine this August…. so please pickup a copy if you can!

Conquer PMS: Honesty with yourself and others

The more you hide your feelings, the more they show. The more you deny your feelings, the more they grow. ~Unknown

If you suffer with one or more of the psychological symptoms associated with PMS e.g. irritability, mood swings, depression….. The above quote must ring true; I know it certainly does with me!

For some reason when I used to suffer with PMS and experience a low mood, I would state the now classic and favourite quote of mine which is “I’m fine”…. but actually, on the inside I was experiencing enough frustration to kick a door down and on the outside I would be as warm as an artic winter!

But “I was fine”! ….. In fact, it was everyone else with the low mood, not me!

Does the above sound familiar?

As women with PMS we know that the hiding of our emotions is not something we do on purpose, but it is something that seems to happen at unconscious level…. and as Guy Finley eloquently states in his book “The Secret of Letting Go”:

The inner determines the outer.

For example, if a person writing a letter misspells a word, the error starts in the person’s mind, after which it appears on the paper. The word can not be corrected until the mind is corrected first. If mind is not corrected, the error will endlessly repeat itself on paper.

So with this knowledge in mind, physiological symptoms of PMS should be reduced by actively working on the following four self development areas listed below:

  1. Develop Awareness skills and learn to become consciously aware of every thought and feeling being experienced, so that you can consciously decide how to react or respond to the outside world.
  2. Develop honesty and compassion with yourself.
  3. Learn how to communicate openly to your loved ones, so that they know how PMS is truly making you feel.

and number 4….the most important…. but sometimes hard to hear!

  •  Learn to take responsibility and action for yourself by actively seeking to improve in the above areas day by day, month by month.

The path to curing PMS is not easy, but it can be done and I hope that by reading this blog your journey will be made just that little bit easier.

Chrissie.

Common PMS Symptoms – What are yours?

PMS stands for (Premenstrual syndrome), but did you know that a syndrome is a collection of symptoms associated to a single cause which in this case is premenstration.

In addition, PMS is sometimes referred to as PMT (Premenstrual Tension) but this is actually incorrect as tension is one of the many symptoms associated with PMS.

PMS has over 100 recorded symptoms and they can be classified in the following way:

Physical
Psychological
Behavioural

Some common symptoms are listed below, but can you add to the list?

Physical
Headaches
Backache
Tiredness
Weight gain
Nausea


Psychological

Mood swings
Irritable
Anxiety
Decreased esteem
Difficulty in concentrating


Behavioural

Appetite change/food craving

Please add your comments to this post, it would be really great to hear about your experiences!

A Great Book – Self Compassion by Kristin Neff

A book I highly recommend is Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff:

http://www.self-compassion.org/self-compassion-the-book/about-the-book.html

Self-Compassion is not a skill natural to most people, as we tend to be better at negative self talk.

If Self-Compassion is low or non-existent then getting through any difficult times of the month can be very challenging, but by introducing self-compassion then those challenging times can become that little bit easier, as you will be providing yourself with the support needed rather than just constantly attacking yourself with negative talk!

The book highlights questions such as:

  • If we cannot be compassionate with ourselves at difficult times of the month then who will be?
  • Would you talk to a friend using the same words and tone, as you do with yourself when you make a mistake?

So make self-compassion a new habit… use words that support and comfort you, not ones that would make your best friend cry!

You will really feel the difference on a bad PMS day 🙂

Awareness

One key factor in winning the battle with PMS is building awareness, this means when a symptom develops such as:

Irritability
Depression
Mood Swings
Anxiety

You can actually notice the arrival and departure of that symptom…. meaning that you can actually learn to take control of the condition rather than letting the condition control you!