Where do I Start?

I was recently contacted and asked the question:

“Where do I start?”

This question was from a person that had suffered with PMS for years and now wanted to explore the many other options available to them, which could help resolve their PMS symptoms, without the use of medication.

If you are in a similar situation, my recommendation is to start a daily Journal, noting down how you are feeling each day, both physically and mentally.

The daily Journal needs to become a habit, and one, which will allow you to discover the patterns in your behaviour that are an early indicator of you entering your PMS phase.

The information gained from the Journal can then be used to take conscious control of your actions, thoughts and re-actions at a time when you need it most……

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PMS Tips For Men

It’s just as important for men to understand about PMS, as it is for women.

Awareness of PMS and how it can impact someones reaction, mood or physicality will only bring positive benefits to yourself and to those who suffer with the condition.

Ignorance is a recipe for disaster, recovery from PMS is ultimately in the hands of the sufferer but support from loved ones makes a huge difference!

So below are my Five Top Tips For Men wishing to help themselves and their loved ones with PMS:

  1. Be aware of your loved ones cycle, make sure she puts a star on the calendar, indicating roughly when her PMS phase will start – If she is not open with her cycle, you will be clueless, which is really not fair on you!
  2. Try to avoid mentioning PMS in the middle of an argument, even if you know that it is the cause – wait until you have both had time to calm down – if you can!
  3. Laugh about PMS, avoid belittling the condition – but a sense of humor, always helps to ease the tension in any situation 🙂
  4. Discuss PMS with your loved one, when she is NOT in her PMS phase !! – normally discussions only happen when the topic is primed due to an argument, caused by the condition.
    Instead I recommend being proactive and speaking about PMS when the phase is over, where you can both have a constructive conversation, allowing you to put positive plans in place for the next phase e.g. swapping of chores that may help ease the pressure etc.
  5. Of course #5 is… read http://www.happymonth.co.ukKnowledge is Power!

 

Do you have a plan?

“A goal without a plan is just wish”

I think this is a great quote, it simply highlights that we can have all the goals in the world, but without knowing the steps needed to accomplish them, it really is wishful thinking!

By reading this blog, i’m assuming that your goal is to reduce and eventually heal from PMS..

To be able to do this, I highly recommend implementing an action plan.

An example could be:

Daily Tasks:

Meditate
Drink plenty of water
Actively be aware of the stage that I am in, with regards to my monthly cycle
Move, seek fresh air, breath and relax

Weekly Tasks:

Research case studies and recovery strategies from Books and the Internet
Adapt food to be consumed, to benefit the current stage of my monthly cycle
Adapt exercise regime, to benefit the current stage of my monthly cycle

Monthly Tasks:

Add a mark on my calendar, highlighting next months PMS phase.
Celebrate success when a happy month has been had, due to a well thought out and delivered plan!

So get planning! and of course, if you need help, feel free to contact me:

Chrissie@happymonth.co.uk

The Holistic Approach for PMS

After a number of years of lived experience and research on the topic of PMS. I now firmly believe that we do not just have PMS for no reason, I believe that it is due to some kind of turbulence found in one or more of the life areas listed below:

PMS Building Blocks

These areas above can be described simply as:

Now = The present moment

Your Future = Our expectations, goals, dreams

Your Beliefs = Your core values and principles

Your Past = Your history and experiences

Each area above plays a vital role in your emotional state.

If you experience stress, negativity, unhappiness in one or more of these areas then your body will need to express this, due to the build up of stored emotions, meaning that if you are prone to PMS, then this is where it will show up, with potentially severe symptoms.

If you are not a sufferer of PMS then you may experience the build up in another way, for example back pain, frequent colds etc.

So, if you . . 

Do not like your job, your situation at home (Now)
Have no direction in life, no ambition, no focus (Your Future)
Have a loved one who is not respecting one of your core values (Your Beliefs)
Have experienced a traumatic event that is still unresolved / unprocessed (Your Past)

Then you will have some kind of physical and/or mental symptom because of this.

What does this mean?

It means that to resolve PMS you need to take a holistic approach.

PMS is not the problem, PMS is trying to communicate to you that there is a disturbance in your life that needs to be resolved and it is likely to be found in one or more of the areas listed above.

By using this approach I have managed to reduce my own severe symptoms to a level where they are now hardly even evident!

So forget about PMS, instead shift your focus to the study and research of your own happiness, this in turn will lead you to the path of recovery and rejuvenation!

Happy Month 🙂

PMS – Prioritise Mental Stability

Is PMS a Condition or a Symptom of unresolved issues within our self?

This is a question I have been thinking about for a long time.

I’m guessing that if you were to ask a number of people this question, then you would receive many conflicting answers, probably due to factors such as:

    1. The intensity of their PMS.
    2. If they are the ones suffering with PMS or if they are just living with a person who has PMS.
    3. Their own belief system of why symptoms develop.

To further analyse this question, have you ever noticed an improvement in your PMS when your mind has been still and happy? for example, when you have been planning and preparing for a long awaited holiday or even when you have been on holiday?

Or do you remember a time when you have experienced heightened PMS due to your mind being unusually busy or unhappy?

Does the above sound familiar to you?

The above is certainly familiar to me, which leads me to believe that PMS is actually more of an indicator of our own mental and physical well-being, rather than a condition in its own right!

So surely this means that the cure to PMS could actually be within our selves rather than in medication?

PMS has always had negative connotations but how empowering would it be, if instead we used it as a powerful reminder that we must Prioritise our own Mental Stability, because if we did, I believe that most people would experience a reduction in their PMS and a generally more enjoyable life! …. and who would not want that? 🙂

To be continued . . .

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It’s all in the planning

It’s been a few months since I last created a blog post; the main reason is that I needed to spend some time on my own battle with PMS.

As I have frequently stated on this site, I have constantly improved on my own symptoms with a lot of hard work and commitment to the journey.

But I am human, and sometimes I don’t have a “Happy Month”, in fact, I have a completely miserable one, luckily it’s not that often, but it does happen!

So I wanted to spend some time finding out what are the real differences between a good and bad month, in areas such as: my daily routines, eating habits, fitness and communication.

With this insight, I then hope to be able to reduce my symptom further and to be able to share these findings with everyone who reads this blog.

So what did I notice?

Good Month

Awareness:  On a good month, I am always fully aware of where I am in my cycle

Fitness: I have a regular fitness routine, adapting at the PMS stage to incorporate activities that will still be achievable with a reduction in my energy

Eating Habits: A good diet with fresh food, water, only two cups of coffee a day and the odd treat*
*everyone needs a treat

Lifestyle: Fully enjoying work and life, knowingly reducing the pace when approaching PMS stage and being kind to myself for doing so.

Communication: Proactive PMS updates e.g. Adding a star to my Calendar, highlighting the estimated start day of my PMS phase and an openness with my loved ones.

Bad Month

Ignorance: No awareness of where I am in my cycle, my mind is busy thinking of future tasks/events that I need to do

Fitness: 2 weeks of regular exercise and then 2 weeks of procrastination and nothingness!

Eating Habits: A good diet for two weeks and then a gradual increase of too much caffeine and undeserved treats 😦

Lifestyle: Trying to keep the pace of life at a constant level for the whole month and when unable to meet my own expectations, adding more tasks on to my to-do list

Communication: “It’s not PMS, I’m fine… “

As you have read, there is a big difference between a good and bad month and the list clearly highlights that there are many elements to focus on if you wish to reduce your symptoms, not just one.

But the biggest piece of advice that I could give, is that it all starts with awareness and being mindful of the present moment and where you are in your cycle.

If you get lost in your work, children, tasks, and to-do lists, then you will never be able to spot the signs that you are about to move into your PMS phase, instead your eureka moment will come in the middle of an argument or at the end of the month, when you would have wasted two weeks of being down, unmotivated and unhappy.

So don’t let PMS win, become aware, make those needed lifestyle changes and have the Happy Month that you deserve.

HappyMonth Plan