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PMS – Busy Mind?
When our PMS phase starts, our minds can become busy, irritated and frazzled.
If we do not find an outlet for the heightened self-talk, it can lead to arguments, withdrawal and a general low mood.
A simple technique that can help is known as Journaling (aka writing therapy), to free your mind and lighten the load.
You do not need to be a prolific writer, or even a writer at all, to benefit. All you need is a piece of paper, a pen, and the motivation to write.
I recommend writing every day, it only has to be a few minutes and you can make it easy for yourself, by having a pen and paper handy at all times.
So what do you write about?
Write down whatever feels right, scribble your thoughts, emotions, annoyances and pet-hates.
Fully offload on to the paper!
The last part of the process is to write down three things that you are grateful for… it can be the house you are sat in, the soft bed you are laying on or maybe the cup of tea that was made for you.
This final act, fills the hole where negativity was and pours in some much needed positivity and gratitude, a sure-fire way to stop PMS in its tracks.
Give it a go, I promise it will make a difference!
Struggling to Maintain a Fitness Routine with PMS?
If you are a lover of health, fitness and exercise like me, then you know how difficult it can be to maintain your level of activity during your PMS Phase.
I have just created the below video, which details a technique that I use to stay active throughout the whole month.
Please take a look and feel free to subscribe to the YouTube channel 😊
Is Technology adding to your PMS Symptoms?
Technology is a wonderful thing, it allows us to connect with people all over the world, to work remotely and even, switch on the washing machine before you get home.
But with all this convenience and connection, it does have its downsides, such as the addiction of social media, distracting us from the real world and the people physically in front of us, causing our minds to be constantly alert, frazzled and irritated.
If you suffer with the more psychological symptoms of PMS then this is something to be aware of, as too much time in front of a screen, will result in you having more intense symptoms.
Of course it would be easy for me to say, just reduce your usage of technology during your PMS phase, but technology is highly addictive, so the chances of you doing that are fairly low.
Instead, I would recommend reviewing your everyday usage and make a commitment to start new healthier technology habits that will lead to a more permanent behavioural change.
This may feel difficult to implement, but if you do stick with it, you will soon be enlightened by the positive psychological changes that it can bring, such as:
A quieter mind
Enhanced focus on the task in hand
A happier mood
Improved sleep
Making this change, is just one simple step to reduce your PMS symptoms and improve your everyday life, so have a think….. are you willing to reduce your daily screen time? Could you see the benefit of spending less time connected? If so, make the change and enjoy that Happy Month you wanted!
PMS Tips For Men
It’s just as important for men to understand about PMS, as it is for women.
Awareness of PMS and how it can impact someones reaction, mood or physicality will only bring positive benefits to yourself and to those who suffer with the condition.
Ignorance is a recipe for disaster, recovery from PMS is ultimately in the hands of the sufferer but support from loved ones makes a huge difference!
So below are my Five Top Tips For Men wishing to help themselves and their loved ones with PMS:
- Be aware of your loved ones cycle, make sure she puts a star on the calendar, indicating roughly when her PMS phase will start – If she is not open with her cycle, you will be clueless, which is really not fair on you!
- Try to avoid mentioning PMS in the middle of an argument, even if you know that it is the cause – wait until you have both had time to calm down – if you can!
- Laugh about PMS, avoid belittling the condition – but a sense of humor, always helps to ease the tension in any situation 🙂
- Discuss PMS with your loved one, when she is NOT in her PMS phase !! – normally discussions only happen when the topic is primed due to an argument, caused by the condition.
Instead I recommend being proactive and speaking about PMS when the phase is over, where you can both have a constructive conversation, allowing you to put positive plans in place for the next phase e.g. swapping of chores that may help ease the pressure etc. - Of course #5 is… read http://www.happymonth.co.uk – Knowledge is Power!
The Holistic Approach for PMS
After a number of years of lived experience and research on the topic of PMS. I now firmly believe that we do not just have PMS for no reason, I believe that it is due to some kind of turbulence found in one or more of the life areas listed below:
These areas above can be described simply as:
Now = The present moment
Your Future = Our expectations, goals, dreams
Your Beliefs = Your core values and principles
Your Past = Your history and experiences
Each area above plays a vital role in your emotional state.
If you experience stress, negativity, unhappiness in one or more of these areas then your body will need to express this, due to the build up of stored emotions, meaning that if you are prone to PMS, then this is where it will show up, with potentially severe symptoms.
If you are not a sufferer of PMS then you may experience the build up in another way, for example back pain, frequent colds etc.
So, if you . .
Do not like your job, your situation at home (Now)
Have no direction in life, no ambition, no focus (Your Future)
Have a loved one who is not respecting one of your core values (Your Beliefs)
Have experienced a traumatic event that is still unresolved / unprocessed (Your Past)
Then you will have some kind of physical and/or mental symptom because of this.
What does this mean?
It means that to resolve PMS you need to take a holistic approach.
PMS is not the problem, PMS is trying to communicate to you that there is a disturbance in your life that needs to be resolved and it is likely to be found in one or more of the areas listed above.
By using this approach I have managed to reduce my own severe symptoms to a level where they are now hardly even evident!
So forget about PMS, instead shift your focus to the study and research of your own happiness, this in turn will lead you to the path of recovery and rejuvenation!
Happy Month 🙂
PMS – Prioritise Mental Stability
Is PMS a Condition or a Symptom of unresolved issues within our self?
This is a question I have been thinking about for a long time.
I’m guessing that if you were to ask a number of people this question, then you would receive many conflicting answers, probably due to factors such as:
- The intensity of their PMS.
- If they are the ones suffering with PMS or if they are just living with a person who has PMS.
- Their own belief system of why symptoms develop.
To further analyse this question, have you ever noticed an improvement in your PMS when your mind has been still and happy? for example, when you have been planning and preparing for a long awaited holiday or even when you have been on holiday?
Or do you remember a time when you have experienced heightened PMS due to your mind being unusually busy or unhappy?
Does the above sound familiar to you?
The above is certainly familiar to me, which leads me to believe that PMS is actually more of an indicator of our own mental and physical well-being, rather than a condition in its own right!
So surely this means that the cure to PMS could actually be within our selves rather than in medication?
PMS has always had negative connotations but how empowering would it be, if instead we used it as a powerful reminder that we must Prioritise our own Mental Stability, because if we did, I believe that most people would experience a reduction in their PMS and a generally more enjoyable life! …. and who would not want that? 🙂
To be continued . . .
