PMS – Prioritise Mental Stability

Is PMS a Condition or a Symptom of unresolved issues within our self?

This is a question I have been thinking about for a long time.

I’m guessing that if you were to ask a number of people this question, then you would receive many conflicting answers, probably due to factors such as:

    1. The intensity of their PMS.
    2. If they are the ones suffering with PMS or if they are just living with a person who has PMS.
    3. Their own belief system of why symptoms develop.

To further analyse this question, have you ever noticed an improvement in your PMS when your mind has been still and happy? for example, when you have been planning and preparing for a long awaited holiday or even when you have been on holiday?

Or do you remember a time when you have experienced heightened PMS due to your mind being unusually busy or unhappy?

Does the above sound familiar to you?

The above is certainly familiar to me, which leads me to believe that PMS is actually more of an indicator of our own mental and physical well-being, rather than a condition in its own right!

So surely this means that the cure to PMS could actually be within our selves rather than in medication?

PMS has always had negative connotations but how empowering would it be, if instead we used it as a powerful reminder that we must Prioritise our own Mental Stability, because if we did, I believe that most people would experience a reduction in their PMS and a generally more enjoyable life! …. and who would not want that? 🙂

To be continued . . .

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It’s all in the planning

It’s been a few months since I last created a blog post; the main reason is that I needed to spend some time on my own battle with PMS.

As I have frequently stated on this site, I have constantly improved on my own symptoms with a lot of hard work and commitment to the journey.

But I am human, and sometimes I don’t have a “Happy Month”, in fact, I have a completely miserable one, luckily it’s not that often, but it does happen!

So I wanted to spend some time finding out what are the real differences between a good and bad month, in areas such as: my daily routines, eating habits, fitness and communication.

With this insight, I then hope to be able to reduce my symptom further and to be able to share these findings with everyone who reads this blog.

So what did I notice?

Good Month

Awareness:  On a good month, I am always fully aware of where I am in my cycle

Fitness: I have a regular fitness routine, adapting at the PMS stage to incorporate activities that will still be achievable with a reduction in my energy

Eating Habits: A good diet with fresh food, water, only two cups of coffee a day and the odd treat*
*everyone needs a treat

Lifestyle: Fully enjoying work and life, knowingly reducing the pace when approaching PMS stage and being kind to myself for doing so.

Communication: Proactive PMS updates e.g. Adding a star to my Calendar, highlighting the estimated start day of my PMS phase and an openness with my loved ones.

Bad Month

Ignorance: No awareness of where I am in my cycle, my mind is busy thinking of future tasks/events that I need to do

Fitness: 2 weeks of regular exercise and then 2 weeks of procrastination and nothingness!

Eating Habits: A good diet for two weeks and then a gradual increase of too much caffeine and undeserved treats 😦

Lifestyle: Trying to keep the pace of life at a constant level for the whole month and when unable to meet my own expectations, adding more tasks on to my to-do list

Communication: “It’s not PMS, I’m fine… “

As you have read, there is a big difference between a good and bad month and the list clearly highlights that there are many elements to focus on if you wish to reduce your symptoms, not just one.

But the biggest piece of advice that I could give, is that it all starts with awareness and being mindful of the present moment and where you are in your cycle.

If you get lost in your work, children, tasks, and to-do lists, then you will never be able to spot the signs that you are about to move into your PMS phase, instead your eureka moment will come in the middle of an argument or at the end of the month, when you would have wasted two weeks of being down, unmotivated and unhappy.

So don’t let PMS win, become aware, make those needed lifestyle changes and have the Happy Month that you deserve.

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Does PMS really exist?

This question is often asked in the media and a question that some people believe the answer to is “No it does not” …. but this is absolutely incorrect, PMS is a real condition with many symptoms that cause a lot of unhappiness to many women around the world.

The Happy Month website aims to promote a number of techniques, tools and lifestyle changes that can be used to help reduce and resolve real symptoms.

I am very passionate about this topic due to suffering with the condition and resolving it with absolutely no medication.

Happy Month is here to help, please get in contact with me if there is a specific topic/subject area that you would like help and advice on.

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Use PMS as a Life Tool

PMS has always been regarded as a negative phase in our life.

But have you ever considered that it could be used in a positive way?

During your PMS phase, I recommend that you write everything down that either bothers, irritates or frustrates you.

This practice will enable you to re-visit your list once your PMS phase is over… rather than airing your views at the time, which will help you to prevent any of those potentially explosive situations from arising!

PMS increases our emotional awareness and if used positively, it can allow us to see the areas of our life that we are just not happy with, so that we can deal with them constructively, once we enter the Communication phase of our monthly cycle.

The Communication phase is when you are in the best possible frame of mind to deal with your frustrations constructively, allowing you to make those important life changes or hold those difficult conversations, knowing that you will achieve the best possible result.

The benefit of this method, is that by dealing with your problems in the Communication phase, it allows you to re-enter the PMS phase, knowing that you have already dealt with the issues that normally cause all of the problems.

PMS Phases

PMS Phases

Are you feeling PMS’y?

If you feel unwell, unable to do any job or task because you feel so ill…..

Would you attempt to hide this from everyone around you?

Or

Would you let them know that you are not feeling well?

I’m guessing that you would tell someone, or at least that you would give yourself everything you needed to feel better . . . .

But it’s odd that most women try to do the opposite where PMS is concerned; trying to pretend or persuade everyone that everything is ok, when really it’s not.

This month open up and let people know that you are not feeling well due to PMS, if you manage to catch the feeling early, tell your loved ones straight away, let them know as soon as possible.

A powerful sentence that has dramatically reduced my PMS is simply:

I’m feeling a bit PMS’y

Sounds simple to say? Yes, but in the early days I found it very hard to admit that I had PMS to myself, let alone to the people I lived with.

But saying the above sentence out loud, I actually found to be very healing as I would feel instantly lighter emotionally, my symptoms would reduce dramatically and any atmosphere at home would be prevented or reduced.

Example

One month I was suffering with irritation due to PMS and I decided to do one of the worst possible things when experiencing the symptom, which was to try and find something in a draw that was a complete mess . . . .

I could feel the rage developing….someone offered to help….I wanted to snap, but then I uttered the words:

Do you know what? I’m feeling a bit PMS’y, would you mind doing this for me?

Rather than the normal explosion and argument, I felt instantly calmer, the person who offered to help felt better too, as they now had an understanding of what was wrong and they even told me to have a relax and then made me a cup of tea…..

O how it could have been so different, if I would of not said those words!!

So use this sentence, it really does work, say it whenever you feel it!

A Simple Tool for Instant PMS / PMT Results

PMS ToolBox

Over the years I have tried a number of different techniques that have been recommended to reduce the symptoms of PMS / PMT, but most seemed to involve either a large learning curve, expense or they were just not feasible to build into a daily routine.

Due to this, I decided to develop my own tools and techniques that would be simple to use and that could be incorporated into my routine.

So in this post I would like to introduce you to “The Daily Well-being Survey” a quick and simple tool allowing you to detect the very first signs of PMS developing, so that you can actively slow down, relax and potentially prevent any explosive situations from occurring.

This technique is very simple, so I have tried to keep the explanation concise too, in the hope that you do try this tool (for at least a month), starting from the very first day your period starts.

How to do “The Well-being Survey”

Step One:

Buy a notepad small enough to carry in your bag or store in your car etc

Step Two:

Divide one of the pages into three columns and then name each column as follows:

How am I Feeling?        Communicate?        Need?

Step Three:

Once a day, at a time when you can be alone, or, even better, just before a busy time of day e.g. before your kids come home from school or before you go home from work, answer the three questions listed in Step Two.

Your answers do not need to be detailed, but they do need to be truthful, so do spend a little bit of time reflecting on how you are feeling before you answer the questions.

The first question “How am I feeling?” is fairly self explanatory, the answer you provide here does not need to be long, but it does have to be honest e.g. : I’m feeling happy, a little bit stressed.

The second question “Communicate?” is really important, as it’s an opportunity for you to review your answer to: “How am I feeling?”.

If your answer seemed to indicate a lower than normal mood and you are getting close to your PMS phase of the month, this could be your first warning sign of PMS developing, suggesting a need for you to communicate with your loved ones, so your answer here should be Yes.

Communication is key in reducing PMS, as strangely by opening up and talking to your loved ones it really does take the pressure off, as you no longer have to pretend that everything is “fine”!

The last question is my favourite, “Need?” What’s going to make you feel better today? e.g. a night in front of the TV? no chores for a night or maybe nothing, if everything is Ok!


So there it is, simple huh? if you do give this technique a try, then please do let me know, as I would love to hear your feedback!

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