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PMS Tips For Men
It’s just as important for men to understand about PMS, as it is for women.
Awareness of PMS and how it can impact someones reaction, mood or physicality will only bring positive benefits to yourself and to those who suffer with the condition.
Ignorance is a recipe for disaster, recovery from PMS is ultimately in the hands of the sufferer but support from loved ones makes a huge difference!
So below are my Five Top Tips For Men wishing to help themselves and their loved ones with PMS:
- Be aware of your loved ones cycle, make sure she puts a star on the calendar, indicating roughly when her PMS phase will start – If she is not open with her cycle, you will be clueless, which is really not fair on you!
- Try to avoid mentioning PMS in the middle of an argument, even if you know that it is the cause – wait until you have both had time to calm down – if you can!
- Laugh about PMS, avoid belittling the condition – but a sense of humor, always helps to ease the tension in any situation š
- Discuss PMS with your loved one, when she is NOT in her PMS phase !! – normally discussions only happen when the topic is primed due to an argument, caused by the condition.
Instead I recommend being proactive and speaking about PMS when the phase is over, where you can both have a constructive conversation, allowing you to put positive plans in place for the next phase e.g. swapping of chores that may help ease the pressure etc. - Of course #5 is… read http://www.happymonth.co.uk – Knowledge is Power!
The Most Important Word for PMS Reduction
This is simple, āTransparencyā
Transparency implies Openness, Communication, and Accountability.
If you are open, then you will no longer have to hide your symptoms.
If you communicate, then you will provide people with a much needed understanding of why you are not as relaxed / happy / energised, as normal.
If you are accountable, then you accept that it is your decision if you do not tell people, if you do nothing during the month to ease your symptoms e.g. exercise, diet choices, meditation.
ā¦ and you accept that by doing nothing, you are actually deciding to have that same argument again with your loved ones!
By doing nothing, nothing will change ā¦
So what could you do this month?
The Holistic Approach for PMS
After a number of years of lived experience and research on the topic of PMS. I now firmly believe that we do not just have PMS for no reason, I believe that it is due to some kind of turbulence found in one or more of the life areas listed below:
These areas above can be described simply as:
Now =Ā The present moment
Your Future = Our expectations, goals, dreams
Your Beliefs =Ā Your core values and principles
Your Past =Ā Your history and experiences
Each area above plays a vital role in your emotional state.
If you experience stress, negativity, unhappiness in one or more of these areas then your body will need to express this, due to the build up of stored emotions, meaning that if you are prone to PMS, then this is where it will show up, with potentially severe symptoms.
If you are not a sufferer of PMS then you may experience the build up in another way, for example back pain, frequent colds etc.
So, if you . .Ā
Do not like your job, your situation at home (Now)
Have no direction in life, no ambition, no focus (Your Future)
Have a loved one who is not respecting one of your core values (Your Beliefs)
Have experienced a traumatic event that is still unresolved / unprocessed (Your Past)
Then you will have some kind of physical and/or mental symptom because of this.
What does this mean?
It means that to resolve PMS you need to take a holistic approach.
PMS is not the problem, PMS is trying to communicate to you that there is a disturbance in your life that needs to be resolved and it is likely to be found in one or more of the areas listed above.
By using this approach I have managed to reduce my own severe symptoms to a level where they are now hardly even evident!
So forget about PMS, instead shift your focus to the study and research of your own happiness, this in turn will lead you to the path of recovery and rejuvenation!
Happy Month š
It’s all in the planning
Itās been a few months since I last created a blog post; the main reason is that I needed to spend some time on my own battle with PMS.
As I have frequently stated on this site, I have constantly improved on my own symptoms with a lot of hard work and commitment to the journey.
But I am human, and sometimes I donāt have a āHappy Monthā, in fact, I have a completely miserable one, luckily itās not that often, but it does happen!
So I wanted to spend some time finding out what are the real differences between a good and bad month, in areas such as: my daily routines, eating habits, fitness and communication.
With this insight, I then hope to be able to reduce my symptom further and to be able to share these findings with everyone who reads this blog.
So what did I notice?
Good Month
Awareness: Ā On a good month, I am always fully aware of where I am in my cycle
Fitness: I have a regular fitness routine, adapting at the PMS stage to incorporate activities that will still be achievable with a reduction in my energy
Eating Habits: A good diet with fresh food, water, only two cups of coffee a day and the odd treat*
*everyone needs a treat
Lifestyle: Fully enjoying work and life, knowingly reducing the pace when approaching PMS stage and being kind to myself for doing so.
Communication: Proactive PMS updates e.g. Adding a star to my Calendar, highlighting the estimated start day of my PMS phase and an openness with my loved ones.
Bad Month
Ignorance: No awareness of where I am in my cycle, my mind is busy thinking of future tasks/events that I need to do
Fitness: 2 weeks of regular exercise and then 2 weeks of procrastination and nothingness!
Eating Habits: A good diet for two weeks and then a gradual increase of too much caffeine and undeserved treats š¦
Lifestyle: Trying to keep the pace of life at a constant level for the whole month and when unable to meet my own expectations, adding more tasks on to my to-do list
Communication: āItās not PMS, Iām fineā¦ ā
As you have read, there is a big difference between a good and bad month and the list clearly highlights that there are many elements to focus on if you wish to reduce your symptoms, not just one.
But the biggest piece of advice that I could give, is that it all starts with awareness and being mindful of the present moment and where you are in your cycle.
If you get lost in your work, children, tasks, and to-do lists, then you will never be able to spot the signs that you are about to move into your PMS phase, instead your eureka moment will come in the middle of an argument or at the end of the month, when you would have wasted two weeks of being down, unmotivated and unhappy.
So donāt let PMS win, become aware, make those needed lifestyle changes and have the Happy Month that you deserve.
Have you taken action yet?
I have met a number of people over the years who are very aware that they have PMS, maybe they have read some books, watched some YouTube videosā¦ but most have never actually taken any action, even though they have spent many hours researching different tools and techniques.
Maybe these people are just not ready…? As to be honest, it does take a huge amount of commitment to achieve any real results and to ensure that they stay a habitual part of your life.
PMS can be cured! …. But it really depends on if you are ready for the journey?
The journey can be very long, filled with many lows at first, but itās so fantastic when you actually start to see results for yourself, such as improvements in relationships, reduction in monthly tension and of course your first fully Happy Month, wow thatās a great feeling!
So are you ready to take action?
If you are, then you may be interested to know that I am in the process of writing a 31 day workbook, which will aid you in your journey to become PMS free…. and I hope that this will be available from Amazon very soon!
How am I feeling today?
So what does it really take to have a Happy Month? ā To be honest it is as simple as starting a new habit!
To reduce your PMS symptoms it is vital for you to become aware of how you feel in the present moment.
As you know, we all have busy lives and we all getĀ lost in our daily routines and habits, meaning hours can pass by which we have no recollection of when we try to think back about our day.
The best way to describe this state of mind is to compare it with a hypnotic state where we switch off our thoughts and memory and then let our unconscious minds take control.
But this state of mind can be very dangerous, especially during the PMS phase of the menstrual cycle, as it means that you can easily react negatively to a situation before you even realise it, all because the mind is following the ānormal routineā.
So to reduce your PMS you need to break this unconscious routine and start a new habit!
Sounds relatively simple? Yes it is, but the unconscious mind is very stubborn and will try to take control back from you at any given momentā¦
So to combat this, I have found the below task to be incredibly successful but you do need to fully commit to the task and also become incredibly disciplined with it, so that it becomes your new daily habit.
The task – “Start a new routineā
So for this task, I first need you to go out and buy a new notebook or diary, which will become your personal PMS diary.
Once you have the notebook, I would like you to start a new page every day, first writing the date and secondly the following question:
How do I truly feel today?
For the answer to theĀ question I would like you to look deep into your heart with honesty and write exactly how you feel underneath the question.
There is no right or wrong answer, itās just about being totally honest with yourself and really noticing every emotion and feeling being experienced in the present moment.
Once you have your answer, please read it and think about what you need today to ensure you have a good day, for example:
Maybe you need to talk about how you are feeling to a loved one?
Maybe you need to reduce your workload for the day?
Maybe you need some time on your own to relax?
or maybe you just need a hug?
Whatever it is, I promise this task will help you to find out what you truly need today and will become one of the first steps in stopping your PMS for good!
