PMS Help – First Step

If you are on the start of your PMS self recovery journey, checkout my latest YouTube video, for my recommended first step:

 

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PMS – Busy Mind?

When our PMS phase starts, our minds can become busy, irritated and frazzled.

If we do not find an outlet for the heightened self-talk, it can lead to arguments, withdrawal and a general low mood.

A simple technique that can help is known as Journaling (aka writing therapy), to free your mind and lighten the load.

You do not need to be a prolific writer, or even a writer at all, to benefit. All you need is a piece of paper, a pen, and the motivation to write.

I recommend writing every day, it only has to be a few minutes and you can make it easy for yourself, by having a pen and paper handy at all times.

So what do you write about?

Write down whatever feels right, scribble your thoughts, emotions, annoyances and pet-hates.

Fully offload on to the paper!

The last part of the process is to write down three things that you are grateful for… it can be the house you are sat in, the soft bed you are laying on or maybe the cup of tea that was made for you.

This final act, fills the hole where negativity was and pours in some much needed positivity and gratitude, a sure-fire way to stop PMS in its tracks.

Give it a go, I promise it will make a difference!

Is Technology adding to your PMS Symptoms?

Technology is a wonderful thing, it allows us to connect with people all over the world, to work remotely and even, switch on the washing machine before you get home.

But with all this convenience and connection, it does have its downsides, such as the addiction of social media, distracting us from the real world and the people physically in front of us, causing our minds to be constantly alert, frazzled and irritated.

If you suffer with the more psychological symptoms of PMS then this is something to be aware of, as too much time in front of a screen, will result in you having more intense symptoms.

Of course it would be easy for me to say, just reduce your usage of technology during your PMS phase, but technology is highly addictive, so the chances of you doing that are fairly low.

Instead, I would recommend reviewing your everyday usage and make a commitment to start new healthier technology habits that will lead to a more permanent behavioural change.

This may feel difficult to implement, but if you do stick with it, you will soon be enlightened by the positive psychological changes that it can bring, such as:

A quieter mind

Enhanced focus on the task in hand

A happier mood

Improved sleep

Making this change, is just one simple step to reduce your PMS symptoms and improve your everyday life, so have a think….. are you willing to reduce your daily screen time? Could you see the benefit of spending less time connected? If so, make the change and enjoy that Happy Month you wanted!

Where do I Start?

I was recently contacted and asked the question:

“Where do I start?”

This question was from a person that had suffered with PMS for years and now wanted to explore the many other options available to them, which could help resolve their PMS symptoms, without the use of medication.

If you are in a similar situation, my recommendation is to start a daily Journal, noting down how you are feeling each day, both physically and mentally.

The daily Journal needs to become a habit, and one, which will allow you to discover the patterns in your behaviour that are an early indicator of you entering your PMS phase.

The information gained from the Journal can then be used to take conscious control of your actions, thoughts and re-actions at a time when you need it most……

PMS Tips For Men

It’s just as important for men to understand about PMS, as it is for women.

Awareness of PMS and how it can impact someones reaction, mood or physicality will only bring positive benefits to yourself and to those who suffer with the condition.

Ignorance is a recipe for disaster, recovery from PMS is ultimately in the hands of the sufferer but support from loved ones makes a huge difference!

So below are my Five Top Tips For Men wishing to help themselves and their loved ones with PMS:

  1. Be aware of your loved ones cycle, make sure she puts a star on the calendar, indicating roughly when her PMS phase will start – If she is not open with her cycle, you will be clueless, which is really not fair on you!
  2. Try to avoid mentioning PMS in the middle of an argument, even if you know that it is the cause – wait until you have both had time to calm down – if you can!
  3. Laugh about PMS, avoid belittling the condition – but a sense of humor, always helps to ease the tension in any situation 🙂
  4. Discuss PMS with your loved one, when she is NOT in her PMS phase !! – normally discussions only happen when the topic is primed due to an argument, caused by the condition.
    Instead I recommend being proactive and speaking about PMS when the phase is over, where you can both have a constructive conversation, allowing you to put positive plans in place for the next phase e.g. swapping of chores that may help ease the pressure etc.
  5. Of course #5 is… read http://www.happymonth.co.ukKnowledge is Power!

 

Do you have a plan?

“A goal without a plan is just wish”

I think this is a great quote, it simply highlights that we can have all the goals in the world, but without knowing the steps needed to accomplish them, it really is wishful thinking!

By reading this blog, i’m assuming that your goal is to reduce and eventually heal from PMS..

To be able to do this, I highly recommend implementing an action plan.

An example could be:

Daily Tasks:

Meditate
Drink plenty of water
Actively be aware of the stage that I am in, with regards to my monthly cycle
Move, seek fresh air, breath and relax

Weekly Tasks:

Research case studies and recovery strategies from Books and the Internet
Adapt food to be consumed, to benefit the current stage of my monthly cycle
Adapt exercise regime, to benefit the current stage of my monthly cycle

Monthly Tasks:

Add a mark on my calendar, highlighting next months PMS phase.
Celebrate success when a happy month has been had, due to a well thought out and delivered plan!

So get planning! and of course, if you need help, feel free to contact me:

Chrissie@happymonth.co.uk

The Most Important Word for PMS Reduction

This is simple, “Transparency”

Transparency implies Openness, Communication, and Accountability.

If you are open, then you will no longer have to hide your symptoms.

If you communicate, then you will provide people with a much needed understanding of why you are not as relaxed / happy / energised, as normal.

If you are accountable, then you accept that it is your decision if you do not tell people, if you do nothing during the month to ease your symptoms e.g. exercise, diet choices, meditation.

… and you accept that by doing nothing, you are actually deciding to have that same argument again with your loved ones!

By doing nothing, nothing will change …

So what could you do this month?

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